The “Big C” — Your Friends, Family and Faith…
I was not too sure before writing this, if I was going to be writing a poem or a blog post. I was not even to sure if I would post this or just save the file for only me to read.
Reason being it is a very personal post (as most blog posts are) and I don’t even know why I am writing it. For self reflection or to make me feel better?? I don’t know.
I am sitting in another airplane, on another trip, thinking of my friends and family, and tearing as I listen to Johnny Cash sing “Help Me”. I worry and pray for my friends here, and friends no longer here : and I worry and pray for my family.
What brings this on?
I have had two dear friends that were diagnosed with cancer in the past six weeks. Different types of cancers and different set of circumstances in terms of ages and where their families are in life. I love both of these guys very much, and their ailments have really hit home for me. I know that I speak for myself and for all of the “buddies” and “friends” of these guys; the ages of them are way too close to ours, and their lifestyles are way too similar to most of us.
It also comes at a time when I remember another freind who left us too soon some two years ago.
My two ill buddies are both family men and dedicated to their wives and children, dedicated to their work and dedicated to their friends and families. They are solid individuals and are well respected and well liked. One is mid forties and one mid fifties. One with three young kids and the other with two older (late twenties). They are both in great spots in their lives with respect to family, friends and careers
Hence the turmoil that they have reeked into many different lives, obviously not of their own doing, but they are really impacting a bunch of us immensely. The group we are in are all living hectic and stressful lives. Work is not confined to the Monday to Friday schedule of nine to five. The kids are either being taxied all over the place or they are at an age where they can do it on their own. Either way provides its stresses.
The future is bright for the kids and yet we can find all the time in world to stress and worry about that too. The wives and or husbands are busy, and the family is pulled and yanked a million ways to Sunday. Things are moving so fast and we are all rushing to get to graduation, university, marriage, retirement….
It’s all in super fast forward.
And yet we have no control over any of it. And that is what I think really hits home when your buddies get sick. You start to wonder, what is this game really worth and is it really worth playing it the way we do?
The challenge being that we have no real control on how this is going to happen and what will the outcomes be. We worry and try to control and mange what is not in our hands.
What does this teach me or teach any of us? I guess what it should do is really place a greater value on what is truly important; your family, your friends and your faith. Cliche as that may sound, it is what this is really about. All of the other stresses will pass or become insignificant in time, but your love of your family, friends and your faith will always be there.
Will this change how I do things? Will it mean anything to me in the long haul? I don’t know. I hope it will. I hope it will make me and all of my freinds better husbands or wives, better parents, better children and better friends. That is all I can hope for and really and truly; it is all that I can control. This I own. This is what I can do.
I pray for my friends and I truly hope that all will be okay. The dilemma is that I can only be a passenger in this portion of their lives and even when I think I am driving m life, I wonder; am I. Am I driving or am I just a passenger as well.
Worry and plan for tomorrow, for you must, however, we must also live for today. Enjoy the now, for you just don’t know how long it is.
I close with the song Help Me – my Favourite version is sung by Mr Johnny Cash:
Oh Lord – Help me to walk another mile – Just one more mile – I’m tired of walking all alone – And Lord, help me to smile, another smile – Just one more smile – Don’t think I can do things on my own – I never thought I needed help before – Thought that I could get by, by myself – But now I know I just can’t take it anymore – And with a humble heart on bended knee – I begging you please for help – Oh come down from your golden throne- To me, to lowly me – I need to feel the touch of your tender hand – Release these chains of darkness – Let me see Lord, let me see – Just where I fit into your master plan – I never thought I needed help before – Thought that I could get by, by myself – Now I know I just cant take it anymore – And with a humble heart on bended knee – Im begging you please for help – With a humble heart on bended knee- I’m begging you for help.
Prayers to, and for, my friends.